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rockklimber24 Says:

Mar 6, 2010 - Guys, just wanted to share some personal observations.. not a doctor.. just more of a thinker.. Social anxiety is a fear reaction just like any other. Your subconscious mind is your core. It cannot reason or think for itself. It takes in whatever your conscious mind (your gatekeeper) deems should be allowed in. When you read something you're processing the information with your conscious mind, and if deemed true based on its rationale, it is then accepted and recorded as permanent data

rockklimber24 Says:

Mar 6, 2010 - Your subconscious mind does not care what's being given. It simply accepts it. And here is the problem. The conscious mind is compromised when faced with fear and allowed to be consumed by it if it is not redirected toward something else. Soldiers train under live fire in some exercises to create a fear distraction to teach the soldiers to deal with it as they will in combat. Those who freak out are the ones who allow their minds to stay focused on it. Those who make it through

rockklimber24 Says:

Mar 6, 2010 - Are those who stay focused on the objective and try to filter out the sound of the gunfire. This is a decision by the soldier's conscious mind. The who choses to focus on the danger can become overwhelmed by it. The soldier who focuses on completing the obstacle course will finish. This is all that confidence and bravery is. A simple decision made by one guy to apply his attention toward finishing the obstacle course made him successful vs someone who kept focused on the threat and did not

rockklimber24 Says:

Mar 6, 2010 - stop himself. Sorry, courage is not just being able to redirect your thoughts.. courage is also how easily your conscious mind gets overwhelmed by the danger and loses control. But basically the key here is that focusing on something that's harming you is bad. Focus on something else. Social Anxiety is the worst fear to deal with because people are social beings, and like to approach and chat, where someone with this fear does not. And you are stuck there talking to the person until

rockklimber24 Says:

Mar 6, 2010 - you can get out of it. Your ONLY chance is to focus your mind on what they're saying or on ANYTHING ELSE. ANYTHING. Anything that keeps you from worrying about standing there in front of someone chatting. Yes, it's tough. I've been there, but got through most of it and that was the way I did it. Focusing on the fear is suicide. If you make a little kid watch a horror movie, he's gonna flip out right? He wouldn't have if he was sitting there reading a book.

rockklimber24 Says:

Mar 6, 2010 - And if the sound from the movie grabs his attention and he turns to it, he will right? It's the same thing. Oh yeah.. people say confront your fears and yeah it's true in the sense that you want to expose yourself to more social situations so you become more desensitized to them. But You also need to fix the tendency of your mind to shift toward your fears. Say that there's 2 guys about to have a knife fight. One guy is thinking about the fact he might be getting stabbed shortly

rockklimber24 Says:

Mar 6, 2010 - and does not redirect that conscious mind to trying to deal with the situation. He becomes consumed by the thought of possibly being stabbed to death. He's frozen. Can't act, can't think. The other guy however, is aware that he too can get stabbed, but he is focused on dealing with the fight instead. Though scared, his mind is busy trying to plan the situation. I hope this makes sense to you guys.

rockklimber24 Says:

Mar 6, 2010 - Fear is a powerful emotion that takes you over and consumes you and makes you unable to make any sort of rational decision. It makes you ready to run fast as hell or dodge a punch faster than normal. Which is exactly why you tend to blurt out stupid stuff during a conversation when you're talkign to someone and you have social anxiety. Once again, the only way to stop it is to not allow your mind to focus on that fear. And the initial fear jolt you get, you cannot control.. like somebody

rockklimber24 Says:

Mar 6, 2010 - for example running up behind you and startling you. Or your bitchy boss running up to you with a bitchy attitude.. you will feel that initial scare. And either you will stay focused waiting to see what other scary things are gonna come out of his/her mouth, or you protect yourself and try to shift your mind from those thoughts. Fear allows almost direct reach into the subconscious when it's strong enough. Like somebody who has a gun to their head begins to flip out like they never have

rockklimber24 Says:

Mar 6, 2010 - before. When fear becomes too much your conscious mind no longer has control.. and reaches the subconcious.. the guy flipping out is the subconcious reacting. It's the source of your emotions. What religious people call your "soul". Doesn't think, just absorbs and reacts.. and only the conscious mind to protect it, which fear penetrates when it's out of hand.

rockklimber24 Says:

Mar 6, 2010 - Would love to hear any thoughts and feedback, positive or negative.

SpiritwindFlash13 Says:

Mar 6, 2010 - Ive had it my whole life and didn't ever hear of it untill just recently Ive spent the last 9years of my life at home and haven't had any friends at all in all of that time!

SpiritwindFlash13 Says:

Mar 6, 2010 - Oh and yep your right I'm almost fifty most people thought I was a snob or stuck up or to good to be with other people! when i got into my fortys it became much worse!

CharDarwin Says:

Mar 7, 2010 - This is an awsome interview. Well done.

Templaris05 Says:

Mar 8, 2010 - Yeah I've suffered with SAD since I was 11 and now I'm 16. It really sucks as I haven't been to school in over a year and my schoolmates shun me due to my psychological state. At least this has motivated me to do A Level Psychology in order to help others whom also suffer.

GaryK425 Says:

Mar 8, 2010 - Living with this really sucks....I tried to kill myself coz of it and was severly depressed for my last 2 years of high school. and it fucked up my exams...I failed my final school exams which meant I counld't go to college or anything. "lost opportunity". I never opened my mouth in school for 2 years...came home and hid in my room. ocassionally I would go out but could never make conversation as I can really only talk to close friends and family. If only I could just get on with my life...

katester091 Says:

Mar 8, 2010 - yes it does ive had SAD for most of my life. But when i got into high school i joined cross country and felt so much better. Running and swimming are great ways to help with SAD cause you can clear your mind and you will be able to concentrate better. I recently became a vegan I eat organicaly and I feel so much better. I have so much more energy. SAD is something you have to work at and it takes time. but exercise and eating healthy can almost cure it.

betthisonesfree Says:

Mar 8, 2010 - hmmm... well, I have gotten MUCH better now that Ive been eating raw shit for two straight fucking weeks lol... but u have to understand, where im coming from, i will do anything and everything to COMPLETLEY remove this anxiety from my life. no matter how hard it is. do u have any other suggestions other than excersise and healthy food? oh, btw i also run long distance, 4 miles everyday baby HOORAH (in 32 minutes lol)

ZeraYaqob Says:

Mar 8, 2010 - I feel sorry for those with SAD. It is extremely hard to MOVE ON from something when you are told you have a disorder. Labeling it that way makes it seem like you HAVE to do something to move away from it......But it helps to think of it this way.... 1) Drop the label 2) You don't have to do anything about it. Instead...drop the label and focus on what makes you happy and your purpose. Then the anxiety "going away" will be a side effect of that and NOT the main focus.

mikzgamer Says:

Mar 9, 2010 - I cant believe there is a name for this. Ive lived like this from when I learnt to think to myself. Everything said here is true. Ive always been described by strangers as shy, quiet and a loner. And right now, its killing my first year at uni. Group work is the only thing.

hightek669 Says:

Mar 10, 2010 - Social anxiety causes depression, loneliness, shame (feeling ashamed of having to live this way), fear (of how others see you), and guilt (i.e. You lie to a friend & tell them you have plans for the night, but really don't all because you are scared of what they're going to think about you if they notice your nervousness, when they do come by to see you)-- all symptoms in which are very unpleasant.

sakinehbs Says:

Mar 11, 2010 - I feel you ,my son is the same way. I'm trying to help him ,I wish I knew what to say to him so I don't hurt him more than what he is hurting right now. sometimes when I talk to him ,try to tell him go out more or make friends or just move on with your life. it seems it bothers him a lot so I stop saying it. any idea how to talk to him? what to say what not to say huh?if you know let me thanks

sakinehbs Says:

Mar 11, 2010 - this is such great vid, thanks for helping all of us the one who has this and the one who wants to help the loved one. I need to learn a lot about this so I can help my love one.

MicroMolly Says:

Mar 12, 2010 - I've missed about 2 years of high school alltogether because of this. It sucks so much. I just want to be normal.

jonasbjarki Says:

Mar 13, 2010 - for certain people... i feel that social anxiety disorder has nothing to do with shyness. meaning to say that one may not even be shy at all, but still be anxious & uncomfortable on a different level.